I've already admitted that I love quotes. I don't know why, I wish I could say lines that were so inpsiring, but I love quotes from movies, books, songs, you name it, I love to "borrow" them. Anyway, recently, I ran across a quote in a movie, "The Object of My Affection," with Jennifer Aniston. Aniston's character says, "you have to pick one person and make it work..."
That just hit home to me. After almost 13 years of marriage and all the ups and downs (let me state ups and downs aren't that little wavy line on a chart, but is more like climbing Mt. Everest and then dropping into the bottom of the Grand Canyon) that marriage brings. That line just made sense. Even when I feel like things aren't "going right," or they aren't as "spicy" as one might prefer, I picked my 'one person' and it is up to me/us to make it work. Love isn't easy come easy go. Love really is a decision. It's that decision to look past the "little bumps" in the road and the "not so pretty flaws" on the face of something that really is and can continue to be something really great.
Through all the great, good, bad, ugly and obscenly terrible moments... it's up to me. I have to decide if I will make it work, if I will put in the time to try and keep it going. If I will continue to choose him. It's up to me... No one can make my marriage work, no one can make the last 13 years more worthwhile than me. I have to see the positive, not just the negative. I have to see the beauty in the beast (which we both can be sometimes). I have to accept the flaws as he accepts mine. I picked "my one person" over 13 years ago, and it is so comforting to know that in another 13 years or even another 30 years, that there is "one person" out there who can say they picked me.
And for all the New Years that come and the Resolutions that fall by the wayside, I know that I can look back every year and say "I picked him." And with that knowledge of being somebody's "one person" is the comfort of knowing what I really knew all along, but it just gives a little bit of satisfaction to be able to say that which is so true, "I am not replaceable." Of course, that means he isn't either!
Happy New Year, and here's to making the same resolution again next year and to pick my same person again and again!
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Okay, this one I printed. Spoke deeply to my heart. I am blessed with my "one person" and I truly believe God created him for me. Lately I have been focused on the lack of "spice", the lack of this, and the lack of that. I AM irreplaceable BUT so is he! I choose him now and for eternity.
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