My One Person

I've already admitted that I love quotes. I don't know why, I wish I could say lines that were so inpsiring, but I love quotes from movies, books, songs, you name it, I love to "borrow" them. Anyway, recently, I ran across a quote in a movie, "The Object of My Affection," with Jennifer Aniston. Aniston's character says, "you have to pick one person and make it work..."

That just hit home to me. After almost 13 years of marriage and all the ups and downs (let me state ups and downs aren't that little wavy line on a chart, but is more like climbing Mt. Everest and then dropping into the bottom of the Grand Canyon) that marriage brings. That line just made sense. Even when I feel like things aren't "going right," or they aren't as "spicy" as one might prefer, I picked my 'one person' and it is up to me/us to make it work. Love isn't easy come easy go. Love really is a decision. It's that decision to look past the "little bumps" in the road and the "not so pretty flaws" on the face of something that really is and can continue to be something really great.

Through all the great, good, bad, ugly and obscenly terrible moments... it's up to me. I have to decide if I will make it work, if I will put in the time to try and keep it going. If I will continue to choose him. It's up to me... No one can make my marriage work, no one can make the last 13 years more worthwhile than me. I have to see the positive, not just the negative. I have to see the beauty in the beast (which we both can be sometimes). I have to accept the flaws as he accepts mine. I picked "my one person" over 13 years ago, and it is so comforting to know that in another 13 years or even another 30 years, that there is "one person" out there who can say they picked me.

And for all the New Years that come and the Resolutions that fall by the wayside, I know that I can look back every year and say "I picked him." And with that knowledge of being somebody's "one person" is the comfort of knowing what I really knew all along, but it just gives a little bit of satisfaction to be able to say that which is so true, "I am not replaceable." Of course, that means he isn't either!

Happy New Year, and here's to making the same resolution again next year and to pick my same person again and again!

New Years

Well here it is, the last day of the year. New Years Eve brings so many things to mind, all the memories of the past year, the past years, the past decades, all the New Years Eve parties spent with friends and family.

New Years Day brings as many things to mind, for those of us who try to do Resolutions (mine are pretty much the same every year, maybe a little different this year), we think of what we want to change going forward. The good things we want to do better, the bad things we really want to change, the new things we want to try, and the obvious things we hope for every year (I will try to exercise at least twice a week...).

But, this New Years there is a lot going through my mind, besides the obvious. Family and those that are not here this New Year and how I love the phone and internet to keep in touch with them. Friends who have left or lost touch. Friends that I miss that "connection" with. Friends that just aren't the same as they were at some other point, and how I miss those times. It seems like this was a year for friends for me.

I've realized a few friends at some point just become that person, there is no opening up to them, no searching and meaningful discussions, just chit chat. Some, I really miss the long hours spent chatting; while others, I'm glad to move forward. Then, there are new friends, new friends that have become a really big part of my world. Friends that are brand new and old friends that seem like new.

I've realized that there really is meaning in the old quote "Friends are here for a reason, a season or a lifetime." Sometimes all three, sometimes that "reason" is a all but too brief passing in the year. I love all the friends that have touched my life. And it's good to know that my family, who will always be here, are also my friends and have so much meaning in my life.

I just don't know why, but this year my Resolutions are all about friends and family. Trying to maintain and build up those relationships just seems so important all of a sudden. Not that it wasn't important before, but it just seems like a "weight" that I need to take care of all of a sudden. Taking hold of those that are important and finding ways to let them know it. If not everyday or every week, like I would like, then at least more often than I have in the past.

So there are my resolutions in an outlined sort of way. Although, my sisters resolutions were good to, just not something I really have a problem doing (taking a break from the housecleaning and business of life to play, I have always loved to play)! So beware all you friends... I will be bugging you! Love ya all, and Happy New Year!